The Personal Narrative

Dec 3, 2025 | 5 comments


The Personal Narrative

I have fairly strong opinions which is not much of a surprise to those who know me. Most of my friends can testify to the intensity with which I hold onto specific points of view. But despite that characteristic, I do my best to remain open to having my perspective changed when someone presents a fact-based, rational argument that refutes my notions. Even so, there are also opinions I want to believe and the emotional quality surrounding that desire means that when I read an article, I am usually searching for information that can corroborate my current thinking. This is how we all support our personal inner narrative.

Unfortunately the personal inner narrative is always skewed because it is strained through our subjective senses. We cannot help but view the world through the filters we have built up over the years, which is something I’ve discussed in several previous posts including Subjectivity, Mindfulness, and Conspiracy Theories. I keep coming back to these subjects because they are of enormous importance to our survival and are constantly impacting how we interact with the world at large, our immediate environment, our friends, and even ourselves.

We can take any subject that requires an aspect of belief (not rooted in empirical data), be it politics, religion, conspiracies, history, cults, philosophy, etc., that encompasses opinion and build on that relatively unconscious process by seeking corroborating evidence. In today’s culture, the confirmation we seek to back up our personal narratives is found from many sources including the internet, books, magazine articles, on TV news programs, and on and on, and all of this media input acts as reinforcement to cement a specific belief. This is a natural way of perceiving our environment since almost everyone wants to believe their view of the world is the correct view. It just feels safe. Life would be very odd if we all went around questioning every move we make because we might be incorrect.

To illustrate I’ll use an obvious and rather over the top example: the prevalence in some sectors of this nation’s population to embrace QAnon. QAnon is centered around, “The core belief that a cabal of Satanic, cannibalistic child molesters, in league with the deep state, is operating a global child sex trafficking ring and that Donald Trump is secretly leading the fight against them,” as noted in Wikipedia. In questioning these beliefs with a QAnon adherent, the suggestion they most often make is to “Do the Research!” as if one could search the internet and find irrefutable verification of all of the QAnon theories.

By compiling information offered as “fact” from dozens of websites it’s possible to see where an individual could find corroborative evidence to support all of the various theories purported by adherents of QAnon. In going to websites such as One Channel, Truth Social, Breitbart, Daily Stormer, plus reading the comments section of extremist Facebook groups, it might appear there is a substantiated basis for all of the beliefs. But on closer inspection, almost every bit of “factual” information comes from one source; the person referred to as “Q”, creating an echo chamber of self-fulfilling belief. In searching for the actual underlying facts to support these allegations, there is zero evidence that any of this information is based in reality.

As someone who is extremely concerned about the environment plus humanity’s role in climate change and the myriad offshoots of this problem, I am more likely to believe the news I hear with regard to the increased distribution of pollutants and the impact of fossil fuels. I am extremely skeptical of press releasees about the concerns and potential solutions offered by the oil and gas industry. I view their motives as based specifically on increasing their own financial gains and the information they offer is spin as compared to factual information. Within that context I understand that I want to view huge corporations as sociopathic giants bent on gathering wealth over the health of the planet, and so when I read data based on my own biases, I am more likely to believe that information rather than what was offered by the corporations themselves. That is my personal inner narrative.

Because of my bias I have to remain vigilant of my own interpretation of any information I take in, making certain that what I read is based on fact and not what I want it to mean. There are many people I consider friends who are in line with my own political perspective and yet, time and again, I see them pass along incorrect material simply because they want to believe it.

We humans are deep into the age of misinformation fueled by easy access to false claims, doctored photographs, and a desire to be “in” on the secrets of how society functions (or doesn’t function). Most people want to feel special and be able to connect with others of like-minded opinions, so we have a propensity to ignore the data that might refute those connections and expose the false claims as just that. Because of the unprecedented proliferation of misinformation, I would like to recommend Lee McIntrye’s book titled Post-Truth, a short but very informative read.

As I’ve stated many times, being Mindful is the key to remaining, as best we can, above the Sirens’ Song calling us to believe the false narratives bombarding us at an ever increasing pace. We are surrounded by it, coming at us from the right, the left, and from the center. When faced with a statement that seems a bit off, even if it fits with your person leanings, research it prior to being drawn into its message or even worse, passing it along to others. As Harry Truman so famously said, “The Buck Stops Here!”

[Side Note – Feral Cat Update: A number of months ago I wrote about a neighborhood Feral Cat we named Morris. Morris was caught and taken to a vet where he was declared terminally ill with his skin disease and euthanized. We had purchased an outside heated shelter where he could be safe during the coming winter, but he will no longer frequent our back porch. Morris will be missed.]

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5 Comments

  1. Jerry King

    Tobin, another good piece that ignites thought. You wrote in the second paragraph “the personal inner narrative is always skewed…” continuing to suggest that our senses are inadequate, and that subjectivity is a problem. Perhaps our condition is no so dire.

    Could it be that there are as many inner narratives as their are “subjects” that is self aware bi-pedal mammals on the planet? Or that each of these subjects possesses a library of versions of reality, narratives, only a few of which are accessible to awareness? I think that you would agree that “reality” is a mind-made construct and the only known access that subjects have is via the five or six senses… (I threw in an extra, just in case.)

    The problem as I view it is not with our senses. There’s no evidence that whack-a-doodle MAGA types have inordinately defective senses. Rather, each individual finds him/her self thrown into this world. Nature is quite amoral, and it is not unusual that all of us have suffered. Those disappointments, even atrocities such as rape, assault and spousal abuse damage our psyche and then the mind forges the pain into a dark story. We either integrate that unspeakable pain and personal sacrilege with other beneficent stories, to enable our wounded self to feel empathy for ourselves first and foremost. Then for others like us.

    Or one may be seduced into a ditch. Stuck like a angry child with his/her inner rage which is projected onto the “enemy” whom your handlers direct you to hate.

    This is our social situation as I understand it. The QAnon myth grinder foists the notion of trafficking onto “the libs” though there is plenty of evidence that Trump partook of his best friend Epstein’s procurement services – to be convincing to anyone that knows of the man’s track record with women. The pedophile resides in the White House. The QAnon religion gins up its own “facts.”

    Well enough said. I am proud to be woke.

    The alternative? Bigotry-drenched drowsiness?

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    • Tobin Fraley

      As social animals, we all want to belong. And the overwhelming desire to belong to some group where we can relate to the other members can easily obscure any semblance of reality. I still believe that the goal of those who are not drawn into this blindness of cult thinking desire to clear away as many of the subjective cobwebs as possible to glean the clearest picture of reality we can muster. even then we may be far away from what actual exists “out there” but I like to think we’re a smidgeon closer.

      As you and I have discussed on many occasions, every person on Earth is sequestered in their own version of reality. This is a given. The difficulty comes because most people wholeheartedly believe their version of reality is THE version of reality. That’s the divide, the chasm that separates us all and doesn’t allow for much common ground. Ultimately it’s just sad, as I say over and over.

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  2. Verna Todd

    Ah, Tobin, again you have beautifully hit a nail flat on its head.

    Regarding the obituary, I’m sorry to hear of Morris’s death. Bless you for caring for him.

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  3. Joan Lasky

    Tobin, thank you for all your thoughtful essays. This one helps me to be mindful of not becoming something I rail against. I don’t want to go so far over to one side with my alleged facts, only to find nothing to justify it except click-bait. When something seems too good to be true it usually is. Many times I jumped in a “fact” only to find out there was nothing to back it up.
    If only we could go back to a time where we were arguing facts and opinions, instead of fighting against a wall of absurd lies.

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    • Tobin Fraley

      Hi Joan – Thank you for your comment. It’s easy to believe something when we are already half way there. The really hard part is putting on the brakes enough to find out if the “facts” we just heard about are true. Corrobaration via the internet feels good regardless of the basis and the difficulty comes in giving up that which feels good to reach greater understanding. But we have to keep trying. Thanks again!!!

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